Dad Shaming and Chupacabra Attacks

I am lucky enough not to suffer from “daddy insecurity”. What’s that, no one asked? Okay, well I’m going to talk about it anyway. Do I consider myself a fantastic father (alliteration for the win)? Not especially. I have major faults and flaws. Each day though, I put on my special dad pants and give the parenting another go. And you know what doesn’t bother me? Other people’s opinions, blogs about dads being dumb and the Chupacabra.

There is an entire niche in the blogging community that thrives on making dads out as dumb. Personally, I find it absolutely hilarious! I don’t do dishes but once a year when my wife threatens to withhold fellatio I’ll pick up a sponge. If it wasn’t for my wonderful wife I would always be in dirty clothes, we have had a washer and dryer for a year now, I’ve used it a total of zero times. Keep calm and go ask mommy where your onesies are kids, daddy couldn’t find the laundry room with Dora’s assistance.

That’s not to say I’m a dumb or useless dad. A lazy person? Yes, but not a dumb dad. I change dirty diapers, give baths, help the kids throw pasta on the wall. Hell, I even sweep! My kids adore me and I them. We have matching mohawks! How frickin cool is that? Our days consist of cuddles, snuggles, laughter and soggy diapers, and it’s always an adventure!

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I’m not nor have I ever felt defined by the opinions of others. Life is stressful enough without the added worry. I’ve managed to read pieces on dads being dumb without coming out of the article completely transformed into a useless father. That’s insane right? These articles aren’t affecting how I raise my kids! If I am comfortable with myself as a parental figure, why should I be bothered by these articles? I’m not, I don’t have “daddy insecurity”!

Being comfortable and confident in your ability to parent is an essential component to laying the foundation for your kid’s future self-esteem. Wow, I got wordy there. For any dumb dads reading, being sure of your ability to dad could help your children grow up and be sure of themselves.

So there it is! The truth of it! “dad shaming” or “dumb dad fodder” doesn’t bother me. I don’t really see the point in getting riled up over them. Satirical articles used as click bait to drive up numbers and viewership. They are usually the same joke rehashed for the millionth time. Why should that bother anybody? I know the father I am, an article doesn’t change that for me. In actuality the likelihood of a Chupacabra attack is significantly higher than an article transforming you into a bad parent. If you are still worried about it though I have a new line of helmets like the one Magneto wore that will block out the powers of dumb dad articles, just leave your ssn in the comments section.

How do you feel about dumb dad pieces? What about parental insecurity? Do you need a magneto helmet?

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10 comments on “Dad Shaming and Chupacabra Attacks
  1. I think people could use this advice in every aspect of life. People in general not just dad’s would be a step or 5 ahead of the rest of society of they would just realize that other people’s opinions in no way affect them. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Just don’t forget you have you’re own. As always I thoroughly enjoyed the read!!

  2. While I don’t let the “dumb dad” articles affect me personally, I think my issue is with the “grand scheme” of it. The more that people joke about dads being useless, dumb or park pedophiles, the more that society says “well it’s funny because it’s true.” And if they feel that way, then you get people shaking you down at the park while you’re there with your kid because the group of moms thinks you’re a park pervert there to kidnap one of their kids. Or consider family courts. If we think of dads as incompetent, then it’s a lot harder for one to prove that he IS capable of taking care of his children while fighting for equal custody time.

    But, like you said, I’m confident in my own parenting, so the articles don’t get me on a personal level. I just don’t want to be hassled when I’m at the park with my kid, or not trusted around other peoples’ children strictly because I’m a man. I think all of that perception is changing though, in part because of the articles we write about how involved we are in fatherhood. Keep it up, brother!

    • Thanks for reading Zach, I do understand your meaning. I just feel like a little too much time is spent being upset about these articles. We are good dads, some of us are great dads. We should show it through our actions and our writing not get hung up on stereotypes. As a very young father covered in tattoos and with a mohawk on top I get ALL the stares in public.

      • Maybe it’s a place of naivety this post comes from, because I have never ran into issues with the “grand scheme” affecting me as a father and as a parent.

        When I see people staring at me, I usually assume it’s because of the hair or arms covered in ink. Going to the park has never resulted in hassles because I’m a male. My family keeps to themselves, usually because my boys are so young I don’t want them run over by the larger kids, but we don’t get people approaching us questioning our intentions at the park. People come up and admire my role as a father stuck in a slide while trying to rescue one of my sons.

        As for the court system, they do favor mothers this is true. I’ve also never had to go through the court system for my children so I wouldn’t be able to understand the trauma of being a good father and having my children taken away from me.

        Regardless, blogs and articles dumbing down or taking away from fathers shouldn’t cause such an uproar. It only drives up their viewership and continues their markets. I was born with some awesomely thick skin that makes it possible for me to laugh and move along nurturing my children into fathers of the future.

        Thanks for reading and weighing in.

  3. I have no problem with any of it. I’m a VERY involved dad who left his job to take a step back and be able to take the kids with me each day. I do overnights and cleaning and I’m fairly smart, if occasionally lazy. Truth of the matter is with two kids of my own I always find it reassuring that I’m looked at weirdly at the park. It’s a small price to pay in my opinion. And look around, there’s a lot of dumb dads doing dumb shit. The real problem is that there’s also tons of dumb moms doing dumb shit and we can NEVER point that out and mock it, which would probably work better then the echo chamber shaming I’m to understand happens over on their side of the conversation. But again, small price to pay for the sum total of human history in which our role was to be aloof and stay out of the way, If it is male V famale, Mom V Dad, it’s more than fair for them to have some misinformed, not totally accurate perceptions of us considering what many of their mothers and grandmothers had to put up with. We have some gender based karmic debt to pay off. Better to accept it then to whine.

  4. Okay, I come across the “not so great dad” posts on occasion but what I can’t STAND are the commercials that make dads out to be incompetent idiots who don’t know how to do anything! Insulting I tell you… and I’m a woman.

    My husband is a great dad and an awesome husband – he’s not perfect but I’m not either and that’t totally and completely okay.

    Thanks for sharing and linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a wonderful week.

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